LOVE is _____________?!!
What you want it to be. What you have learned that it is. What you have been programmed to accept.
Love is the most powerful, miscomprehended, mysterious forces out there. In romantic love, we know the euphoric feelings, the sensation of warmth on our skin, and of course the promise of a future together. There is scientific evidence that when in love, our body produces the yummy hormone "Oxytocin". This elation drug that our own body produces is designed to allow us to procreate, blinding us to the person we may be perceiving as our ideal. It also ensnares us into the web of delusion - should the one we are in love with be manipulating us. Those with sociopathic, or psychopathic tendencies are aware of this, and have a very good game at getting others to be "in love" with them. Sacrificing their better judgement as we fall deeper and deeper into addiction to our own programming.
In an ideal situation, both people feel the effects of this drug. This allows us to fall into "Unconditional love". By both people feeling the state of euphoria, they are able to dream their biggest dreams and assist one another to manifest them. Working together as a symbiotic union. Yet sadly, most of humanity is not programmed for this, nor do we know what to do when we feel this type of love. Often, we sabotage it.
Yet, often, as I have witnessed (and experienced), the oxytocin wears off. The person for whom one felt for strongly for fades away, and some would question whether or not they ever were truly in love. I would answer, yes, and no.
In these circumstances often one loves more than the other. And the one who loves more feels that their love can carry the relationship. Phrases like "If I just love them enough" or "I have enough love for both of us" are at best a symptom of being played. The other may not have socio/psycho-pathic tendencies, but they may be incompatible with the person over flowing with adoration.
Our societies have romanticized love so much that the very story of "boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy tries to get girl back, boy gets girl back" are just the tip of the iceberg. I often ask "what happens AFTER happily ever after?" A concept that Disney and Hollywood films have left out. We don't get to see the fights, and the ways we can make up (without sex). We don't get to see how a couple struggles through tight finances and still ends up liking each other. We are not able to learn how to be a couple after the honeymoon phase. And so our relationships suffer.
In a worse case scenerio, one party is abusive.
And it doesn't mean just violent or verbal. A partner can be sexually abusive (either excessive or abandonment of affection), financial, emotional, and an array of other methods. Basically when one knows they are being mistreated on a consistent basis where the abuser is fully aware of their behavior, then it is best they leave the situation. Sometimes in the case of financial and emotionally abusive relationships, the abuser may need to have counselling to learn how to behave better, and the abused needs counselling to no longer accept or attract this type of attention/affection into their lives.
Then there are the relationships of dominant co-dependence. This may seem like an abusive relationship, but all it really is is that one of the people does not know how to be independent cause they were never taught. It can be a burden on the other, who has to remind, guide and even school their partner into what to do when, but over all, if a resentment builds, then it is best they part.
I feel, that relationships end for many reasons. And not all of them are bad. Some couples are great at communication and realize they have grown apart, and so separate amicably, others fight for dominance till the bitter end. Usually causing one if not both people to be financially destitute after.
It is best to stay single, or offer honesty if you wish to be a swinging single person. And if the other deludes themselves, well that is on them. At least you can say "I was up front with my intentions". As we build up our own integrity and begin living authentically, then love won't be such a travesty. Yet if you do not know your own heart, I would strongly suggest learning to love the best and worst sides of you, before you commit to loving another.
~ Arthena Sophia
What you want it to be. What you have learned that it is. What you have been programmed to accept.
Love is the most powerful, miscomprehended, mysterious forces out there. In romantic love, we know the euphoric feelings, the sensation of warmth on our skin, and of course the promise of a future together. There is scientific evidence that when in love, our body produces the yummy hormone "Oxytocin". This elation drug that our own body produces is designed to allow us to procreate, blinding us to the person we may be perceiving as our ideal. It also ensnares us into the web of delusion - should the one we are in love with be manipulating us. Those with sociopathic, or psychopathic tendencies are aware of this, and have a very good game at getting others to be "in love" with them. Sacrificing their better judgement as we fall deeper and deeper into addiction to our own programming.
In an ideal situation, both people feel the effects of this drug. This allows us to fall into "Unconditional love". By both people feeling the state of euphoria, they are able to dream their biggest dreams and assist one another to manifest them. Working together as a symbiotic union. Yet sadly, most of humanity is not programmed for this, nor do we know what to do when we feel this type of love. Often, we sabotage it.
Yet, often, as I have witnessed (and experienced), the oxytocin wears off. The person for whom one felt for strongly for fades away, and some would question whether or not they ever were truly in love. I would answer, yes, and no.
In these circumstances often one loves more than the other. And the one who loves more feels that their love can carry the relationship. Phrases like "If I just love them enough" or "I have enough love for both of us" are at best a symptom of being played. The other may not have socio/psycho-pathic tendencies, but they may be incompatible with the person over flowing with adoration.
Our societies have romanticized love so much that the very story of "boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy tries to get girl back, boy gets girl back" are just the tip of the iceberg. I often ask "what happens AFTER happily ever after?" A concept that Disney and Hollywood films have left out. We don't get to see the fights, and the ways we can make up (without sex). We don't get to see how a couple struggles through tight finances and still ends up liking each other. We are not able to learn how to be a couple after the honeymoon phase. And so our relationships suffer.
In a worse case scenerio, one party is abusive.
And it doesn't mean just violent or verbal. A partner can be sexually abusive (either excessive or abandonment of affection), financial, emotional, and an array of other methods. Basically when one knows they are being mistreated on a consistent basis where the abuser is fully aware of their behavior, then it is best they leave the situation. Sometimes in the case of financial and emotionally abusive relationships, the abuser may need to have counselling to learn how to behave better, and the abused needs counselling to no longer accept or attract this type of attention/affection into their lives.
Then there are the relationships of dominant co-dependence. This may seem like an abusive relationship, but all it really is is that one of the people does not know how to be independent cause they were never taught. It can be a burden on the other, who has to remind, guide and even school their partner into what to do when, but over all, if a resentment builds, then it is best they part.
I feel, that relationships end for many reasons. And not all of them are bad. Some couples are great at communication and realize they have grown apart, and so separate amicably, others fight for dominance till the bitter end. Usually causing one if not both people to be financially destitute after.
It is best to stay single, or offer honesty if you wish to be a swinging single person. And if the other deludes themselves, well that is on them. At least you can say "I was up front with my intentions". As we build up our own integrity and begin living authentically, then love won't be such a travesty. Yet if you do not know your own heart, I would strongly suggest learning to love the best and worst sides of you, before you commit to loving another.
~ Arthena Sophia
In reading this again, I recognize that I still have some programming left as I use the term "fall in love". I wish to have people (and myself) rise in love. Yet with a lifetime of programming to deprogram, I too am still a work in progress.
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